Warm Up: I Timothy 1: 12-19, I Timothy 4: 12
I remember getting ready to go to college. It was not too long ago, in fact. My discipleship group leader decided we should read a book that would prepare us for all the spiritual matters we would encounter in college. Unfortunately, he had trouble finding anything that was both good and aimed towards future college students. Eventually, we wound up reading a book that had excellent things to say and touched on college, but was still not exactly what we were looking for.
I later decided that I, being a college student, should do something about the lack of writing that pertained to the college student’s Christian life. I cannot promise it will be any good, but at least I can properly aim for the subject matter. I enjoy writing and even if I do not make a cent off this blog, I can still hope that it will impact someone out there. Speaking of cents, here is lesson number one about college: Most students are poor and always trying to make money and are as cheep as possible. Some people may think we have money since we do not have any “real” responsibilities, but this is simply false. For instance, guess what happened to me during my Freshmen year. A couple of my friends paid me two dollars to go up to the sweet tea machine and drink straight out of it. Now normally, I may not have done that. But seeing as I did not have money and was quickly running out of soap I knew there was only one thing to do. I promptly walked to the machine and stuck my mouth right under the flow of sweet tea in front of the entire dining hall. There are two important morals for this story. The first is to accept anything that someone offers you for free in college (Unless it is illegal! Or from someone you do not know and is consumption based!). By senior year, my wardrobe was made up entirely of free t-shirts. The second moral is to take advantage of the summer jobs and save as much as you can before you get to school. And now, to the real deal…
Just so you have an idea of where I am coming from in this blog, I am (or was if this is being read after 2009, possibly 2010 or 2011 depending on how my grades work out) a student at The University of Georgia in the great city of Athens. It is currently one of the top ten party schools in the nation and the second best sports college town in the nation (according to magazines who know what they are talking about). Academics are fairly tough here and will be getting tougher. People are friendly, and for the most part there is little hostility towards Christianity, but there is also a severe lack of authentic belief. Everything in this book/blog is the result of something I have either learned or relearned on a deeper level while in college. I hope that my little collection of thoughts and ideas will help prepare future or current students for college in a spiritual way that has never been done before. To those readers who are already in college, I am sure you will be able to identify with and appreciate many things I blabber about in the future postings, and hope that they will give you some things to think about.
College is one of the most significant transitions a person will make in life. Kids no longer live with their parents and no one tells them what to do. People take on new responsibilities like doing their own laundry and feeding themselves. Everyone will encounter more temptations than they could even imagine existed in the world. Students will meet countless new people and some of them will become truly lifelong friends. College is a blast, but if you are not prepared spiritually than you are going to get hurt.
Universities have become more and more diverse over the years. As a result I have met people with different backgrounds, skin colors, religious beliefs, study habits, political beliefs and anything else you can think of. From my interactions with all these people, from spending time in God’s word, from listening to people who are smarter than me, and from screwing up I have learned a great deal about what it means to be a light in the dark and salt to the world.
I am asked to write tons of thesis statements for papers in school. You probably are too. Consider this my thesis for the book: God is perfect. We cannot even come close. I blew it, and so did you. You are just as bad as everyone else who is a sinner at your school. Thankfully, God has pulled some serious strings and now we have the freedom to not blow it anymore. The only way we will stop blowing it and actually have an impact on our campus, however, is to realize that we are jacked up and in dire need of God’s grace and forgiveness. Maybe you have heard what I just said many times in your life, and maybe you have not. Either way, experience after experience has taught me how little an “upstanding intellectual” like myself really understands about grace. So stay with me through this blog, and maybe you will learn more about grace in the same ways I still am.
One last thing, the format of this baby is simple, and you have probably figured it out for yourself. Each topic should take you about ten or fifteen minutes to read, including the “warm-up.” The warm-up is at the start of each topic and is a bit of scripture that has to do with the topic being discussed. Devotional and supplemental materials like this blog can help you in your walk, but they cannot hold a candle to what scripture can do in your life. I even make it easy for you; if you click the scripture in the warm up it is a link to the actual scripture. And now, if you have made it this far without falling asleep, congratulations, you’ve done more than I normally can when reading. I hope you enjoy my ruminations (that's right, college word baby!) and keep coming back for more!
Welcome
This blog is written from my own personal (and very recent) experience in college at the University of Georgia. It seeks to enable current and prospective college students to live their faiths with authenticity in a world where Christianity and religion is looked down upon. I am convinced, however, that if students pursue God in an authentic way, people will take notice and be impacted. I also believe that students who maintain a strong relationship with God will actually enjoy their time at college more than would otherwise be possible. These posts scripturally based and attempt to be short (much shorter than any reading assignment from a professor anyway) and usually take 10-15 minutes including the warm up. I hope you will subscribe and keep coming back as I post a new entry every week. I like to think they can work somewhat like a devotional for college kids. More importantly, I hope something here brings you closer to God and strengthens the foundations of your faith. If you wish to go into college or the real world better prepared to defend your faith, please visit my other blog The Rational God.
Monday, August 24, 2009
Choosing a Life Major
Warm up: John 6:1-13
During your high school and college years a particular question pops up many times. It may come from your parents, your relatives, your friend’s nosey parents, and even yourself. “What am I going to do with my life?” Everyone has a desire for their life to count for something and everyone seeks a certain purpose in the world. It is a big world, however, and sometimes making a difference in it can seem like a daunting task.
Fortunately, there is someone on our side who holds the world in the palm of his hand. Making a difference in this world is like taking a breath of air for Him. In fact, creating it just took a few words. Through Him, any one can make such a huge impact on the world that even the person God is using will have trouble believing it is happening. One girl, Esther, was able to save all of her people simply because she used the position God had given her and was willing to risk her life and speak with the king. A small boy named David was able to defeat a Giant and cause the turning point in a war simply because he knew how to use a sling shot and offered his gift to God. In John 6, a small boy does not have much, just a couple of fish and some bread. Despite the little he has, he offers it to Jesus and believes something good will come out of it.
The focus of this story is not what the little boy did. Rather, the focus is on what God did through the little boy. Perhaps this boy was naïve, or maybe he still had the faith of a child, but for some reason he believed Jesus could do something great with what little he had. Now that we can see the full story, one thing is for sure. He wasn’t naïve, he was right. Jesus took what the little boy had, an insignificant amount of food, and turned it into a feast for thousands of people. Everyone of us is like the little boy compared to God. None of us are gifted enough to make a difference with eternal value in the world. But if we offer ourselves, and our gifts, to God, then He will do incredible things with them.
What gifts has God given you? What is He asking you to give back to Him so that He may use it in an incredible way? Are you a gifted musician who He wants use by bringing people into his throne room through worship? Are you a gifted accountant who He wants to use by bringing integrity to a particular firm? Are you a great sports player and he wants to use your talents and influence on the professional level for evangelism? You may not be that good at many things, but God has gifted you in some area and when you find it, the best thing you can do is offer your gift to God. If you do, He will do something amazing with it.
There are a few good questions to ask yourself in determining where God wants you to go in life. The first question is, “Does what I am doing bring God more glory?” The job or career you are pursuing should not be a job you are pursuing because you think it will bring you contentment, but because you think God will use you in awesome ways there. This does not mean that you have to become a pastor or join a monastery; it simply means that where you go in life should not be about your glory. It should be about God’s glory. The beauty of pursuing God’s glory is that when we make our job about Him, we achieve a much higher tier of satisfaction than was possible when we were working only for our own contentment.
The apostle Paul is a fine example of this because he did not make a living off of being a minister, but instead he made a living by being a tent maker. I do not think there is anyone in the world who would argue that Paul did not make a huge impact on all of history. Despite not being a full time minister, his career still gave him the ability to be a incredible witness and bring God glory.
The second question to ask is, “Do my gifts fit the career I am choosing?” Sometimes it is easy for us to see someone else finding great success in bringing God glory and desire to have the same job as them. For instance, a man who sees another man coaching high school football. The coach has incredible influence on his players and is able to help them move towards Christ. The person who sees this decides he wants to be a football coach as well so that he can have the same influence. The only problem is, he knows nothing about football or athletics. It is tempting for us to desire to do something we hate or have no talent in because we have seen God use others in the same field. We make ourselves believe that we are making a great sacrifice for God in order to further his kingdom, but really all we are doing is wasting a great deal of people’s time, including our own. If you try and do something for God that you are not gifted in, you will quickly find yourself getting worn out and bogged down with responsibility.
The church is a body, each person with a unique role and gift. I have found that when I perform the tasks that I am gifted in, I become more energized as I do them and get better as I go on. On the other hand, when I do jobs that I don’t particularly care for, I get worn out real quickly and am not able to do them as well. God knows how He gifted you, so He probably is not going to call you to do something you have no skill in. That does not mean he might enable you to do something bigger than you would ever dream of, but He is most likely going to work through your gifts He gave you.
There is definitely a certain risk in choosing a career or searching for a purpose, but your purpose is out there. You may not know what God’s calling for your life is until you are fifty or seventy, but He has one for you. It may be at your work, it may be at your kid’s baseball games, it may even be feeding the multitudes with what little you have to offer. God is not asking us to change the world, He is asking us to take a step of faith and offer what we have to Him. We may not know what He will do with those small gifts, but if we give Him control, the sky is the limit.
If you are unsure of what your gifts are, talk with some people you care about you and know well. You may be surprised to hear how they encourage you. There are also plenty of tests you can find online that will help guide you in determining your gift set, so try some of them (I am not referring to the facebook quizzes about which Disney character you are). Lastly, the things you are passionate about doing are probably the things you are gifted in. Choose your major and your career based off of your gifts, and give your gifts to God. You will love it.
During your high school and college years a particular question pops up many times. It may come from your parents, your relatives, your friend’s nosey parents, and even yourself. “What am I going to do with my life?” Everyone has a desire for their life to count for something and everyone seeks a certain purpose in the world. It is a big world, however, and sometimes making a difference in it can seem like a daunting task.
Fortunately, there is someone on our side who holds the world in the palm of his hand. Making a difference in this world is like taking a breath of air for Him. In fact, creating it just took a few words. Through Him, any one can make such a huge impact on the world that even the person God is using will have trouble believing it is happening. One girl, Esther, was able to save all of her people simply because she used the position God had given her and was willing to risk her life and speak with the king. A small boy named David was able to defeat a Giant and cause the turning point in a war simply because he knew how to use a sling shot and offered his gift to God. In John 6, a small boy does not have much, just a couple of fish and some bread. Despite the little he has, he offers it to Jesus and believes something good will come out of it.
The focus of this story is not what the little boy did. Rather, the focus is on what God did through the little boy. Perhaps this boy was naïve, or maybe he still had the faith of a child, but for some reason he believed Jesus could do something great with what little he had. Now that we can see the full story, one thing is for sure. He wasn’t naïve, he was right. Jesus took what the little boy had, an insignificant amount of food, and turned it into a feast for thousands of people. Everyone of us is like the little boy compared to God. None of us are gifted enough to make a difference with eternal value in the world. But if we offer ourselves, and our gifts, to God, then He will do incredible things with them.
What gifts has God given you? What is He asking you to give back to Him so that He may use it in an incredible way? Are you a gifted musician who He wants use by bringing people into his throne room through worship? Are you a gifted accountant who He wants to use by bringing integrity to a particular firm? Are you a great sports player and he wants to use your talents and influence on the professional level for evangelism? You may not be that good at many things, but God has gifted you in some area and when you find it, the best thing you can do is offer your gift to God. If you do, He will do something amazing with it.
There are a few good questions to ask yourself in determining where God wants you to go in life. The first question is, “Does what I am doing bring God more glory?” The job or career you are pursuing should not be a job you are pursuing because you think it will bring you contentment, but because you think God will use you in awesome ways there. This does not mean that you have to become a pastor or join a monastery; it simply means that where you go in life should not be about your glory. It should be about God’s glory. The beauty of pursuing God’s glory is that when we make our job about Him, we achieve a much higher tier of satisfaction than was possible when we were working only for our own contentment.
The apostle Paul is a fine example of this because he did not make a living off of being a minister, but instead he made a living by being a tent maker. I do not think there is anyone in the world who would argue that Paul did not make a huge impact on all of history. Despite not being a full time minister, his career still gave him the ability to be a incredible witness and bring God glory.
The second question to ask is, “Do my gifts fit the career I am choosing?” Sometimes it is easy for us to see someone else finding great success in bringing God glory and desire to have the same job as them. For instance, a man who sees another man coaching high school football. The coach has incredible influence on his players and is able to help them move towards Christ. The person who sees this decides he wants to be a football coach as well so that he can have the same influence. The only problem is, he knows nothing about football or athletics. It is tempting for us to desire to do something we hate or have no talent in because we have seen God use others in the same field. We make ourselves believe that we are making a great sacrifice for God in order to further his kingdom, but really all we are doing is wasting a great deal of people’s time, including our own. If you try and do something for God that you are not gifted in, you will quickly find yourself getting worn out and bogged down with responsibility.
The church is a body, each person with a unique role and gift. I have found that when I perform the tasks that I am gifted in, I become more energized as I do them and get better as I go on. On the other hand, when I do jobs that I don’t particularly care for, I get worn out real quickly and am not able to do them as well. God knows how He gifted you, so He probably is not going to call you to do something you have no skill in. That does not mean he might enable you to do something bigger than you would ever dream of, but He is most likely going to work through your gifts He gave you.
There is definitely a certain risk in choosing a career or searching for a purpose, but your purpose is out there. You may not know what God’s calling for your life is until you are fifty or seventy, but He has one for you. It may be at your work, it may be at your kid’s baseball games, it may even be feeding the multitudes with what little you have to offer. God is not asking us to change the world, He is asking us to take a step of faith and offer what we have to Him. We may not know what He will do with those small gifts, but if we give Him control, the sky is the limit.
If you are unsure of what your gifts are, talk with some people you care about you and know well. You may be surprised to hear how they encourage you. There are also plenty of tests you can find online that will help guide you in determining your gift set, so try some of them (I am not referring to the facebook quizzes about which Disney character you are). Lastly, the things you are passionate about doing are probably the things you are gifted in. Choose your major and your career based off of your gifts, and give your gifts to God. You will love it.
Sheep!
Warm Up: John 10:1-18
The summer before my senior year I was really fortunate and went on a trip to Fiji and New Zealand. Before I get into anything spiritual, can I just highly recommend traveling abroad while you are in college? See the world God has made, either through study abroad or just going to another country with friends and backpacking around. Sure it will cost you some money, but the experience will be worth way more than the cost. Trust me, I can promise you that ten years down the road you will not be saying, “I sure am glad I did not go to New Zealand or Europe, because otherwise I may not have this nice rug.” The experience you get out of traveling abroad is amazing, and there is no better time than the youthful and adventurous days you are living in right now.
OK, the shameless plug is now over. I was in New Zealand for four weeks and it was incredible. I could go on and on about it, but I am only going to focus on the final week of my trip. New Zealand has tons of sheep. When I was there they had a human population of four million, and a sheep population of thirty million. Yikes. That is a lot of sheep. For one whole week, I had the good fortune of working with these creatures, and it was very interesting.
George and Mildred
I grew up hearing about sheep in the Bible and being told that they were not smart animals. Nothing I heard, however, could demonstrate their stupidity as much as experiencing them first hand. Let me just say that every stereotype you have ever heard about sheep is true. They are the stupidest, most foolish, and most obnoxious animals I have ever spent time with. And you know what the great irony is? God compares us, His people, to sheep all throughout the Bible. Yeah. Not very encouraging, right?
It took me about five minutes with these wooly beasts to look up at the sky and tell God I was so sorry. They were driving me crazy, but I knew that everything they did was similar to a way I had acted around God before. It was ridiculous. The sheep were about a week or two away from having their lambs. This meant that all of the sheep I worked with were pregnant, and almost ready to give birth. We needed to prepare them for “lambing,” so every day we ventured out into the thirteen hundred acre farm with the sheep dogs and corralled some sheep into a paddock. Here we gave them vaccinations for various diseases, as well as a tasty mineral supplement. These were helpful to both the sheep and the lambs they were carrying because it would enter the lambs’ bloodstream before they were even born.
I had the joyous task of hopping in the paddock, crowded with sheep, and giving each one of them shots. Needless to say, it was very up close and personal and I learned a great deal about them in a short time. As has been said before, they are stupid. Some were pretty good about taking the shots, but most of them would freak out before I even got close to them. They would begin to try and escape when there was nowhere to go, and instead of taking the shot, which caused a little bit of pain, they would ram (pun intended) their heads into fences, jump on top of other sheep, and do anything they could to avoid me.
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In the Sheep Pin
There are so many times in my life when I sense God approaching. Sometimes I know it may hurt, and so I start to panic and do anything I can to avoid Him. I run into fences and give myself much more pain than what He is bringing. And although the vaccines may be painful, they are good for me and necessary for my survival. But still, I choose to do whatever I can to escape. Unfortunately, I can’t escape God just like the sheep could not escape me. They may have resisted for a few minutes, but in the end they felt the needle. God is infinitely more resolute and powerful than I am, and when He wants to do something in your life, He will get it done.
But the sheep comparisons do not end there. In fact, I am just getting started. They were incredibly stubborn. In order to get them to change directions, I had to grab them by the face and literally turn their head around with my hand. They simply would not go somewhere unless they could see where they were headed.
This example really struck home, because I am pretty stubborn myself. When God wants me to do something, I do not want to do it unless I can see where I will end up. Sometimes I just refuse to listen, and He has to grab be by the face and turn my life back in the right direction. This is not a pleasant experience usually, and He has creative ways of turning heads.
Sheep always follow the crowd too. They would never go to the end of the paddock unless they saw some other sheep on the other side. They lived on these huge pastures where any of them could go wherever they wanted, but in every pasture there was a trail about a foot wide where the grass had been constantly walked on. Despite the size of their living space, the sheep always followed the same path and never adventured out away from it. Remember how your mom always asked, “If all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you do that too?” Well, I am fairly certain sheep would respond with a yes to this question.
It is amazing how people will do anything if they are following others. I have seen so many friends go down the same path that they know will not end well. How many wealthy people, college students, and co-workers have to die from a drug overdose before people realize that it is not a good solution to their problems? How many people need to seek after money so hard that they lose their family and never find satisfaction before we realize that money will not complete us? And yet we, like sheep, will follow another person straight into oblivion without a second thought.
My last observation about sheep is they were truly lost without a shepherd. When the dogs would be herding them, all of the sheep would move closely together as a single pack. Occasionally, however, one would get separated from the group. Every time this happened, the sheep would make it a few steps and then stop. It would look around and be totally clueless about what to do. It stayed frozen in place until it either saw the pack of sheep again and chased after them, or a dog came back and barked it back in right direction. They were literally lost, and had no idea what to do.
What a real shepherd looks like
Just like sheep, when we get separated from the pack, we get totally lost. We need to be a part of the body of Christ, and we need to have other believers close by. When we wander away from God, we are pretty much screwed. But there is good news, because we have such a good shepherd. No matter how far we wander, Jesus will come and find us and bring us back home to the family.
So remember, you are like a sheep. I know, it is not exactly a complement, but I’m sorry, you are like a sheep. We are stubborn, foolish creatures and we follow others into oblivion. When we are on our own we can get pretty lost, and when God wants to act in our lives we are quick to fight and resist. But, like I said, we have a good shepherd. He loves us and will take care of us. He loves us so much, in fact, that he willingly gave up his life to save ours. He will not give us pain unless there is a good reason for it. He will not let us wander alone for long, and will always bring us back. We may have to be bold and go off the beaten track to follow him, but at the sound of his voice we can have peace and confidence that what we are doing can bring life, and not just any life, but life to the full.
Sheep. They may be annoyingly stupid, but they have a special place in my heart now. And as long as I pursue Jesus, I do not think that will ever change.
The summer before my senior year I was really fortunate and went on a trip to Fiji and New Zealand. Before I get into anything spiritual, can I just highly recommend traveling abroad while you are in college? See the world God has made, either through study abroad or just going to another country with friends and backpacking around. Sure it will cost you some money, but the experience will be worth way more than the cost. Trust me, I can promise you that ten years down the road you will not be saying, “I sure am glad I did not go to New Zealand or Europe, because otherwise I may not have this nice rug.” The experience you get out of traveling abroad is amazing, and there is no better time than the youthful and adventurous days you are living in right now.
OK, the shameless plug is now over. I was in New Zealand for four weeks and it was incredible. I could go on and on about it, but I am only going to focus on the final week of my trip. New Zealand has tons of sheep. When I was there they had a human population of four million, and a sheep population of thirty million. Yikes. That is a lot of sheep. For one whole week, I had the good fortune of working with these creatures, and it was very interesting.
I grew up hearing about sheep in the Bible and being told that they were not smart animals. Nothing I heard, however, could demonstrate their stupidity as much as experiencing them first hand. Let me just say that every stereotype you have ever heard about sheep is true. They are the stupidest, most foolish, and most obnoxious animals I have ever spent time with. And you know what the great irony is? God compares us, His people, to sheep all throughout the Bible. Yeah. Not very encouraging, right?
It took me about five minutes with these wooly beasts to look up at the sky and tell God I was so sorry. They were driving me crazy, but I knew that everything they did was similar to a way I had acted around God before. It was ridiculous. The sheep were about a week or two away from having their lambs. This meant that all of the sheep I worked with were pregnant, and almost ready to give birth. We needed to prepare them for “lambing,” so every day we ventured out into the thirteen hundred acre farm with the sheep dogs and corralled some sheep into a paddock. Here we gave them vaccinations for various diseases, as well as a tasty mineral supplement. These were helpful to both the sheep and the lambs they were carrying because it would enter the lambs’ bloodstream before they were even born.
I had the joyous task of hopping in the paddock, crowded with sheep, and giving each one of them shots. Needless to say, it was very up close and personal and I learned a great deal about them in a short time. As has been said before, they are stupid. Some were pretty good about taking the shots, but most of them would freak out before I even got close to them. They would begin to try and escape when there was nowhere to go, and instead of taking the shot, which caused a little bit of pain, they would ram (pun intended) their heads into fences, jump on top of other sheep, and do anything they could to avoid me.
In the Sheep Pin
There are so many times in my life when I sense God approaching. Sometimes I know it may hurt, and so I start to panic and do anything I can to avoid Him. I run into fences and give myself much more pain than what He is bringing. And although the vaccines may be painful, they are good for me and necessary for my survival. But still, I choose to do whatever I can to escape. Unfortunately, I can’t escape God just like the sheep could not escape me. They may have resisted for a few minutes, but in the end they felt the needle. God is infinitely more resolute and powerful than I am, and when He wants to do something in your life, He will get it done.
But the sheep comparisons do not end there. In fact, I am just getting started. They were incredibly stubborn. In order to get them to change directions, I had to grab them by the face and literally turn their head around with my hand. They simply would not go somewhere unless they could see where they were headed.
This example really struck home, because I am pretty stubborn myself. When God wants me to do something, I do not want to do it unless I can see where I will end up. Sometimes I just refuse to listen, and He has to grab be by the face and turn my life back in the right direction. This is not a pleasant experience usually, and He has creative ways of turning heads.
Sheep always follow the crowd too. They would never go to the end of the paddock unless they saw some other sheep on the other side. They lived on these huge pastures where any of them could go wherever they wanted, but in every pasture there was a trail about a foot wide where the grass had been constantly walked on. Despite the size of their living space, the sheep always followed the same path and never adventured out away from it. Remember how your mom always asked, “If all your friends jumped off a cliff, would you do that too?” Well, I am fairly certain sheep would respond with a yes to this question.
It is amazing how people will do anything if they are following others. I have seen so many friends go down the same path that they know will not end well. How many wealthy people, college students, and co-workers have to die from a drug overdose before people realize that it is not a good solution to their problems? How many people need to seek after money so hard that they lose their family and never find satisfaction before we realize that money will not complete us? And yet we, like sheep, will follow another person straight into oblivion without a second thought.
My last observation about sheep is they were truly lost without a shepherd. When the dogs would be herding them, all of the sheep would move closely together as a single pack. Occasionally, however, one would get separated from the group. Every time this happened, the sheep would make it a few steps and then stop. It would look around and be totally clueless about what to do. It stayed frozen in place until it either saw the pack of sheep again and chased after them, or a dog came back and barked it back in right direction. They were literally lost, and had no idea what to do.
Just like sheep, when we get separated from the pack, we get totally lost. We need to be a part of the body of Christ, and we need to have other believers close by. When we wander away from God, we are pretty much screwed. But there is good news, because we have such a good shepherd. No matter how far we wander, Jesus will come and find us and bring us back home to the family.
So remember, you are like a sheep. I know, it is not exactly a complement, but I’m sorry, you are like a sheep. We are stubborn, foolish creatures and we follow others into oblivion. When we are on our own we can get pretty lost, and when God wants to act in our lives we are quick to fight and resist. But, like I said, we have a good shepherd. He loves us and will take care of us. He loves us so much, in fact, that he willingly gave up his life to save ours. He will not give us pain unless there is a good reason for it. He will not let us wander alone for long, and will always bring us back. We may have to be bold and go off the beaten track to follow him, but at the sound of his voice we can have peace and confidence that what we are doing can bring life, and not just any life, but life to the full.
Sheep. They may be annoyingly stupid, but they have a special place in my heart now. And as long as I pursue Jesus, I do not think that will ever change.
Defining Yourself
Warm up: Daniel 1
Something happens when you arrive at college. You will never forget that moment when you walk into your new room, your parents leave, and you are alone. There is an explosion of emotion involving a mixture of nerves, adrenaline, panic, laughter, excitement and so much more. Undoubtedly, the words, “what the heck have I just gotten myself into?” will cross your mind. A sudden sense of freedom is unleashed when you realize you are on your own and get to be your own person. No one is forcing you to go to jail, your parent’s are not around to make you do homework, and most rules and laws can be tip toed around.
During college you can see people for who they really are. The “good guy” FCA leader in high school becomes the drunk, the moral girl who always did her studies becomes “popular” at fraternity houses, and the kid who always told his friends they were dumb for doing drugs becomes the biggest druggie of all. Yes, college has rules and regulations, but there is perhaps no easier time in life to find loopholes though those rules.
Your own beliefs and values will either prove to be true, or collapse right beneath your feet. College brings freedom, and freedom can lead to a downward spiral faster than you can imagine. If you wait too long to determine where you stand on particular issues, there will be trouble. If your reasons for not doing a certain action are simply because you have been told not to, you and your new friends will quickly find your reasoning to be lacking. If you desire to have an authentic relationship with God, then it is vital to have and know where you stand on spiritual issues when you arrive on move-in day.
When Daniel, a young Jewish prisoner, came to the courts of Babylon he was quickly faced with a temptation to eat food that was considered unclean by God. Unclean food may not be an issue for us today, but it was an important part of the law before Christ came. When the food was offered to Daniel and his friends, he rejected it immediately. There was no debate in his mind about whether or not he should take the food and he was firm in his position. The reason he was able to be quick and resolute in his decision was because the decision had been made long before the temptation was offered him. When we know what we believe to be right and wrong before an opportunity presents itself, we are much more likely to do the right thing. When we go into situations undecided about whether or not we will do the wrong thing, then nine times out of ten we probably will do the wrong thing.
It is so important to know your stance on moral issues because in college you will be presented with every temptation that is in the book. It is a lot harder to say no to drinking at a party when everyone else thinks you are a goober for not. It is much harder for guys to say no to a girl who is throwing herself on him in a locked dorm room if he does not have to worry about his parents walking in on him and her having sex. It is much easier for a girl to be “cute” and wear less than she should when her dad or brother are not making sure she is wearing a descent outfit. I’m saying this not to be preachy, but to warn you: when you get to college, there are no rules. None. If you do not have rules set for yourself, then you are going to mess up.
I’m going to make another quick and important note about Daniel. He did not have to make the decision to do the right thing alone because he had friends making it with him. It is a necessity for any Christian to have spiritual accountability that will encourage and push one towards God. I’m not saying you need to go to a school where you already have good Christian friends, but as soon as you get on campus start looking for people who are willing to hold you accountable. Technically, you can have a relationship with God without accountability, but encouragement and community makes life so much easier and better.
I suppose there are going to be some people who read this blog and become excited about all the stuff they will be able to get away with. I guess I could offer scripture or logical arguments, but maybe the best thing I can tell you is that I know many people who came into college ready to go crazy. They went nuts for a little while, found it to be extremely unsatisfying, and some returned to God regretting their decisions. So if you are thinking about “living life to the fullest,” I would challenge you to talk some older Christians who have been there and done that. There is a good chance it will sway your thinking.
College is an exciting time. You will have the chance to find yourself. Some students will become Teachers, some will become Philosophers, others will become Chemists, most will learn more about friendship and experience heartaches, many will leave their faith, and others will fall more madly in love with their Savior than ever thought possible. Yes, college is a chance to learn and change, but it does not mean we should forsake that which we know and believe to be true. Choose to live for God in your dorms, in your classrooms, and all over your campus. If you do, you may be surprised by how much joy you experience and how much you learn about who you truly are in Christ.
Something happens when you arrive at college. You will never forget that moment when you walk into your new room, your parents leave, and you are alone. There is an explosion of emotion involving a mixture of nerves, adrenaline, panic, laughter, excitement and so much more. Undoubtedly, the words, “what the heck have I just gotten myself into?” will cross your mind. A sudden sense of freedom is unleashed when you realize you are on your own and get to be your own person. No one is forcing you to go to jail, your parent’s are not around to make you do homework, and most rules and laws can be tip toed around.
During college you can see people for who they really are. The “good guy” FCA leader in high school becomes the drunk, the moral girl who always did her studies becomes “popular” at fraternity houses, and the kid who always told his friends they were dumb for doing drugs becomes the biggest druggie of all. Yes, college has rules and regulations, but there is perhaps no easier time in life to find loopholes though those rules.
Your own beliefs and values will either prove to be true, or collapse right beneath your feet. College brings freedom, and freedom can lead to a downward spiral faster than you can imagine. If you wait too long to determine where you stand on particular issues, there will be trouble. If your reasons for not doing a certain action are simply because you have been told not to, you and your new friends will quickly find your reasoning to be lacking. If you desire to have an authentic relationship with God, then it is vital to have and know where you stand on spiritual issues when you arrive on move-in day.
When Daniel, a young Jewish prisoner, came to the courts of Babylon he was quickly faced with a temptation to eat food that was considered unclean by God. Unclean food may not be an issue for us today, but it was an important part of the law before Christ came. When the food was offered to Daniel and his friends, he rejected it immediately. There was no debate in his mind about whether or not he should take the food and he was firm in his position. The reason he was able to be quick and resolute in his decision was because the decision had been made long before the temptation was offered him. When we know what we believe to be right and wrong before an opportunity presents itself, we are much more likely to do the right thing. When we go into situations undecided about whether or not we will do the wrong thing, then nine times out of ten we probably will do the wrong thing.
It is so important to know your stance on moral issues because in college you will be presented with every temptation that is in the book. It is a lot harder to say no to drinking at a party when everyone else thinks you are a goober for not. It is much harder for guys to say no to a girl who is throwing herself on him in a locked dorm room if he does not have to worry about his parents walking in on him and her having sex. It is much easier for a girl to be “cute” and wear less than she should when her dad or brother are not making sure she is wearing a descent outfit. I’m saying this not to be preachy, but to warn you: when you get to college, there are no rules. None. If you do not have rules set for yourself, then you are going to mess up.
I’m going to make another quick and important note about Daniel. He did not have to make the decision to do the right thing alone because he had friends making it with him. It is a necessity for any Christian to have spiritual accountability that will encourage and push one towards God. I’m not saying you need to go to a school where you already have good Christian friends, but as soon as you get on campus start looking for people who are willing to hold you accountable. Technically, you can have a relationship with God without accountability, but encouragement and community makes life so much easier and better.
I suppose there are going to be some people who read this blog and become excited about all the stuff they will be able to get away with. I guess I could offer scripture or logical arguments, but maybe the best thing I can tell you is that I know many people who came into college ready to go crazy. They went nuts for a little while, found it to be extremely unsatisfying, and some returned to God regretting their decisions. So if you are thinking about “living life to the fullest,” I would challenge you to talk some older Christians who have been there and done that. There is a good chance it will sway your thinking.
College is an exciting time. You will have the chance to find yourself. Some students will become Teachers, some will become Philosophers, others will become Chemists, most will learn more about friendship and experience heartaches, many will leave their faith, and others will fall more madly in love with their Savior than ever thought possible. Yes, college is a chance to learn and change, but it does not mean we should forsake that which we know and believe to be true. Choose to live for God in your dorms, in your classrooms, and all over your campus. If you do, you may be surprised by how much joy you experience and how much you learn about who you truly are in Christ.
Thursday, August 20, 2009
Football
Warm-up: Acts 17:16-21
Extra Credit: Acts 17:22-34
Football is kind of a big deal at the University of Georgia. I mean, a really big deal. If you have never been to an SEC football game, you are missing out. If you are a fan of a team outside the SEC and have some biased view about the SEC being overrated, get over it. You are wrong. The football here is crazy, the competition is unreal, and the heat during September games is unbearable. But people find a way to bear it, because they want to watch football that bad.
The hype surrounding UGA during the off-season before my senior year was out of control. We had Matthew Stafford, Knowshon Moreno, and a preseason ranking of number one in the nation. Everyone in Athens was buzzing, and the place could hardly keep from exploding from excitement. This was also the same summer I went to Fiji and New Zealand.
When I was traveling around, I met people from all over the world. Most of them had heard of college football, but few knew anything about it. My friends I travelled with and I were so excited about Georgia football, that if at any point we perceived a way to begin discussing the game with people, we did. We went on and on about how huge it was, how 92,000 people filled the stands every game, about how much money it cost to have season tickets, and about how good Georgia could be. And the funny thing was, these people could care less about college football.
Our excitement about the subject, however, compelled them to listen. And even though we may have lost them here or there, they were still impressed by some of the things we said. Finally, after all our rambling was done, we would usually apologize by saying, “Sorry, but it is just not a good idea to get people from the South talking about college football. Especially when they have a really good team.”
After my trip I had a huge epiphany, and it made me feel pretty shallow. “Imagine,” I thought, “what kind of an impact I would have had if I were as excited to talk about the gospel as I was to talk about football.”
Ouch.
Why is it, that I can have no shame in talking about football and jump at every chance to say everything I can about how great it is, but I rarely jump at a chance to discuss the gospel? What is stopping me? Maybe it goes back to identity and I am more nervous about people finding out I am a “Jesus Fan” than a “Georgia Fan.” Maybe it is because I am simply not as excited about God. That thought is horrible because if it were true that would mean I am more pumped about a kid who can run fast and juke people than having the Creator of the universe on my team.
It’s really kind of embarrassing. And football is not the only thing I get more excited about than God. There is my wife, my random projects, my bike riding, movies (The Dark Knight was a prime example during the same summer as UGA football), and countless other things.
God and the Gospel are the most exciting things ever in the history of the universe. Seriously. The maker of Heaven and Earth loves us so much that He came and died for us. That does not just happen everyday! I know, I know, that is a cliché statement, but just sit there and think about how ridiculous that is.
Think about it, think about it…
Yeah. I know it is nuts. Not only does He love all his people, but He loves you. Just you, as a person, despite all of your problems and screw-ups. Now that is something to get excited about. I could go on trying to convince you to get excited, but I guess the best thing to do is tell you a story about a man named Derek. I went to Poland with my church in high school for a mission trip. We had a great time and ministered to people through sports and Vacation Bible Study. Derek was one of the guys who was always with us. Every chance he got, he would tell people the awesome story of what God had done in his life.
Derek grew up and had a great future ahead of him. He was amazing at soccer and eventually played on the national level. But somewhere along the way, Derek realized he was not content with life. Seeking out a solution, he turned to alcohol. He drank more and more everyday, and eventually got to the point where he would fill up his water bottle with Vodka during soccer games and consume the entire thing while he played. He had become so consumed with alcohol that he could not even enjoy his favorite sport without it.
And then, one day, God walked into Derek’s life. There was a radical transformation and he fell so in love with Jesus that he gave up alcohol cold turkey. It was such a sudden change that he even endured physical problems, but he refused to even consider giving into his old temptations. Such a huge change can really only be explained by one thing: God. I do not believe that anyone can instantly gives up that much alcohol on their own. Clearly, God stepped into Derek’s life and changed it forever.
Derek’s joy about his salvation and the work in his life was apparent to everyone he met. I wish I were more like Derek. I may not have been an alcoholic, but the only reason I did not become one is that God entered into my life and caused radical change in my heart before I could choose Derek’s old lifestyle. I should be excited about that! Much more excited about it than Georgia’s preseason ranking. The world needs more people like Derek. The only hope I, or anyone else has of being as excited as Derek is to spend time with God. When I taste God’s goodness, when I experience His peace, when I am reminded of how screwed up I am and how much more screwed up I could really be, there is only one appropriate reaction: To praise the God of Creation and to shout the good news to everyone I meet.
Extra Credit: Acts 17:22-34
Football is kind of a big deal at the University of Georgia. I mean, a really big deal. If you have never been to an SEC football game, you are missing out. If you are a fan of a team outside the SEC and have some biased view about the SEC being overrated, get over it. You are wrong. The football here is crazy, the competition is unreal, and the heat during September games is unbearable. But people find a way to bear it, because they want to watch football that bad.
The hype surrounding UGA during the off-season before my senior year was out of control. We had Matthew Stafford, Knowshon Moreno, and a preseason ranking of number one in the nation. Everyone in Athens was buzzing, and the place could hardly keep from exploding from excitement. This was also the same summer I went to Fiji and New Zealand.
When I was traveling around, I met people from all over the world. Most of them had heard of college football, but few knew anything about it. My friends I travelled with and I were so excited about Georgia football, that if at any point we perceived a way to begin discussing the game with people, we did. We went on and on about how huge it was, how 92,000 people filled the stands every game, about how much money it cost to have season tickets, and about how good Georgia could be. And the funny thing was, these people could care less about college football.
Our excitement about the subject, however, compelled them to listen. And even though we may have lost them here or there, they were still impressed by some of the things we said. Finally, after all our rambling was done, we would usually apologize by saying, “Sorry, but it is just not a good idea to get people from the South talking about college football. Especially when they have a really good team.”
After my trip I had a huge epiphany, and it made me feel pretty shallow. “Imagine,” I thought, “what kind of an impact I would have had if I were as excited to talk about the gospel as I was to talk about football.”
Ouch.
Why is it, that I can have no shame in talking about football and jump at every chance to say everything I can about how great it is, but I rarely jump at a chance to discuss the gospel? What is stopping me? Maybe it goes back to identity and I am more nervous about people finding out I am a “Jesus Fan” than a “Georgia Fan.” Maybe it is because I am simply not as excited about God. That thought is horrible because if it were true that would mean I am more pumped about a kid who can run fast and juke people than having the Creator of the universe on my team.
It’s really kind of embarrassing. And football is not the only thing I get more excited about than God. There is my wife, my random projects, my bike riding, movies (The Dark Knight was a prime example during the same summer as UGA football), and countless other things.
God and the Gospel are the most exciting things ever in the history of the universe. Seriously. The maker of Heaven and Earth loves us so much that He came and died for us. That does not just happen everyday! I know, I know, that is a cliché statement, but just sit there and think about how ridiculous that is.
Think about it, think about it…
Yeah. I know it is nuts. Not only does He love all his people, but He loves you. Just you, as a person, despite all of your problems and screw-ups. Now that is something to get excited about. I could go on trying to convince you to get excited, but I guess the best thing to do is tell you a story about a man named Derek. I went to Poland with my church in high school for a mission trip. We had a great time and ministered to people through sports and Vacation Bible Study. Derek was one of the guys who was always with us. Every chance he got, he would tell people the awesome story of what God had done in his life.
Derek grew up and had a great future ahead of him. He was amazing at soccer and eventually played on the national level. But somewhere along the way, Derek realized he was not content with life. Seeking out a solution, he turned to alcohol. He drank more and more everyday, and eventually got to the point where he would fill up his water bottle with Vodka during soccer games and consume the entire thing while he played. He had become so consumed with alcohol that he could not even enjoy his favorite sport without it.
And then, one day, God walked into Derek’s life. There was a radical transformation and he fell so in love with Jesus that he gave up alcohol cold turkey. It was such a sudden change that he even endured physical problems, but he refused to even consider giving into his old temptations. Such a huge change can really only be explained by one thing: God. I do not believe that anyone can instantly gives up that much alcohol on their own. Clearly, God stepped into Derek’s life and changed it forever.
Derek’s joy about his salvation and the work in his life was apparent to everyone he met. I wish I were more like Derek. I may not have been an alcoholic, but the only reason I did not become one is that God entered into my life and caused radical change in my heart before I could choose Derek’s old lifestyle. I should be excited about that! Much more excited about it than Georgia’s preseason ranking. The world needs more people like Derek. The only hope I, or anyone else has of being as excited as Derek is to spend time with God. When I taste God’s goodness, when I experience His peace, when I am reminded of how screwed up I am and how much more screwed up I could really be, there is only one appropriate reaction: To praise the God of Creation and to shout the good news to everyone I meet.
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Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Roommates
Warm Up: Matthew 7:1-12
Living with people is sometimes a new experience for people at college. It can be really fun, or it can really stink. In fact, sometimes it can literally stink. After observing people who have succeeded and people who have failed at being a roommate, I have some tips for living with others.
Let us begin by clearing up a common misconception. Many people say it is a bad idea to live with your best friend, but I do not buy into that for a second. I lived with my lifelong best friend and we had a great time together. In fact, we successfully lived together for two years. The problem is never how well you know the person you are living with, and if there are problems they can usually be solved. If you follow these tips, there is a very good chance you will have a fun and worthwhile time with your roommates, even if you are sharing a space that feels like twenty square feet.
The number one thing to remember is probably the one thing nobody wants to do: be humble. So many arguments and conflicts would be completely avoided if someone would just lower their pride. Sometimes pride can cause the stupidest arguments the world has ever seen. During freshman year, my roommate and I had an argument because I took some of his gum without asking. It made him really mad, but I did not think I had done anything wrong because I had given him some of my food earlier. In my mind gum was not a big deal, and really in his mind it was not either, he simply wanted me to ask for something that belonged to him.
If I had just apologized and said, “I will ask for gum from now on,” there would not have been an argument. Instead, I decided I wanted to be right and would not give in. After a few hours or a couple days, I don’t really remember how long it went on, I finally apologized and the argument ended. It was fairly awkward in the room, however, and the gum incident could have led to more intense arguments. Looking back, I know the whole situation could have been avoided with a simple act of humility on my part. Sometimes that act of humility is not easy to do, but when I think about it I would much rather humble myself, which God calls me to do anyway, than go through days, weeks, or even months of tension and awkwardness with the person I live with 24/7.
The second tip is to have a sense of humor. This is something that is not always easy to have, especially for certain people. I do believe there is a level of intentionality, however, that can give anyone the ability to laugh at things. There is always a choice: laugh, or get angry. When a roommate spills milk on your bed, you can either cry about it or laugh at it. When your roommate breaks the futon, you could either get mad or laugh about it. When your roommate accidentally uses your toothpaste, you can either get really ticked and tell all your friends about the problem, or laugh about it and go buy a new one. Obviously, there are certain things a roommate may do that you should not and cannot laugh at. But if they make a mistake and it is an accident, try and not be uptight about it, but be willing to laugh about it. More often than not, if you can laugh at your roommate’s mistakes, he or she will be able to laugh at your mistakes too.
The third tip is crucial. If you have a problem with your roommate, let them know about it. I cannot stress this enough, so many people are afraid of conflict with a roommate that rather than addressing conflict when it begins, they let it linger until it slowly develops into a much bigger issue that ends in an all out explosion of roommate angst and bitterness. There is a misconception in the world that telling someone they are doing something annoying or hurtful will make the other person hate you. Conflict can be handled without destruction and gnashing of teeth. I have found that many times when I present a complaint to one of my roommates, they did not even realize that they were doing something wrong and they immediately fixed the problem.
If your roommate is printing off pages when you want to sleep, let him or her know that it is keeping you awake and you need to sleep. If your roommate is constantly eating your food or wearing your clothes without asking, let them know that is annoys you and they need to ask before taking something. You should be ready, however, because if your roommate is being bothered by something you do there is a good chance they will let you know about it after you let them know what is bothering you. If they do this, be willing to agree and make a deal. “Do unto others as you would have them do to you” is easily the most cliché thing in the book, but it is also one of the most true and applicable things you can know. Setting the example by being willing to accommodate your roommates’ needs will give them more incentive to adjust to your needs.
Be able to understand and appreciate differences you have with your roommate. Odds are, you will not find all the same things funny, you will not like the exact same movies, and you will not use the same cologne or perfume. Just because your roommate is different than you, do not assume that they think you are not cool. Likewise, do not think that your roommate is less cool than you because they are different than you. Different cultural roots can also be a sensitive area too, so be careful that you do not criticize the things they do differently because of where they grew up. At the same time, be careful not to interpret what they say about the way you grew up as criticism. People may just be surprised because they had never heard of that idea or way of life, but that does not mean they are being critical.
The last piece of advice is tough. It is not always enough to not be selfish, you must also be selfless. Doing things for your roommate and considering how they will be affected by your actions will make living with them much more enjoyable. For example, I lived in an apartment with a kitchen for several years. I cook all of my meals while some of my roommates eat most of their meals in the dining halls. Occasionally they get hungry and cook something at the apartment and then just leave the dishes in the sink. They eventually get cleaned, sometimes four or five days later, so in their minds they are not doing anything wrong because they are cleaning their dishes. The problem is, I have to cook in there everyday, and sometimes I need the dishes they used or I need the space in the sink that their dishes are taking up. This is very inconvenient for me. They are not being selfish, but they are not really living selflessly. Living selflessly does not seem very rewarding, but it actually is. It is one of those Biblical paradoxes that never makes sense until you experience it. Doing things for others is somehow the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself. If you treat your roommate selflessly, then most likely they will do the same for you and then everyone will be a happy camper.
There is a small problem with all of these tips. Sometimes you just get suckered into having a roommate who is just a real jerk. Be careful in concluding this however, make sure that you have done everything you can to work out the differences you have. Do not take the easy way out and just conclude you have a jerk roommate before you try and deal with the issues you are experiencing. Because sometimes the person you thought was a jerk will end up being the coolest person you have ever known.
If you do wind up with a total jerk, there is hope! The first thing you can do is start praying that God will work in their heart to make them a better roommate. The second thing you can do is to constantly forgive your roommate, time and time again. God does the same thing for you, so let yourself forgive jerk roommates. The third thing you can do is be the roommate you want them to be. If you are constantly being selfless and joyful, it is going to rub-off on them. And if for some reason it does not, God will see your selflessness and reward you somehow. It may not be now, and it may not even be in this life, but God will take notice.
One thing I have tried to do lately is turn the things my roommates do that annoy me into acts of worship. The best example is, again, the dishes. When I see the dishes cluttering up the kitchen I try not to get angry, and instead I just wash them. This is not always easy to do with a worshipful attitude, and sometimes I need some positive music to help keep a good attitude, but I get the dishes done. During the rest of the day, I can look at the kitchen and not get really ticked off because it looks like an explosion happened in there. Instead, I can just smile and know that things are fine.
Having a roommate can be exciting. You will probably be closer to them than anyone you have ever met. If your roommate is not a believer, you will have the best witnessing opportunity of your life. The tips in this chapter especially apply to that living situation, because your roommate will see that there is something different about the selfless and humble way you live and be drawn to Christ through that. Living with someone is what you make of it. If you want to have fun with them, then you will. If you want to have things your own way and be prideful about everything, you will have a miserable year with your roommate. In my opinion, humility never looked so good.
Living with people is sometimes a new experience for people at college. It can be really fun, or it can really stink. In fact, sometimes it can literally stink. After observing people who have succeeded and people who have failed at being a roommate, I have some tips for living with others.
Let us begin by clearing up a common misconception. Many people say it is a bad idea to live with your best friend, but I do not buy into that for a second. I lived with my lifelong best friend and we had a great time together. In fact, we successfully lived together for two years. The problem is never how well you know the person you are living with, and if there are problems they can usually be solved. If you follow these tips, there is a very good chance you will have a fun and worthwhile time with your roommates, even if you are sharing a space that feels like twenty square feet.
The number one thing to remember is probably the one thing nobody wants to do: be humble. So many arguments and conflicts would be completely avoided if someone would just lower their pride. Sometimes pride can cause the stupidest arguments the world has ever seen. During freshman year, my roommate and I had an argument because I took some of his gum without asking. It made him really mad, but I did not think I had done anything wrong because I had given him some of my food earlier. In my mind gum was not a big deal, and really in his mind it was not either, he simply wanted me to ask for something that belonged to him.
If I had just apologized and said, “I will ask for gum from now on,” there would not have been an argument. Instead, I decided I wanted to be right and would not give in. After a few hours or a couple days, I don’t really remember how long it went on, I finally apologized and the argument ended. It was fairly awkward in the room, however, and the gum incident could have led to more intense arguments. Looking back, I know the whole situation could have been avoided with a simple act of humility on my part. Sometimes that act of humility is not easy to do, but when I think about it I would much rather humble myself, which God calls me to do anyway, than go through days, weeks, or even months of tension and awkwardness with the person I live with 24/7.
The second tip is to have a sense of humor. This is something that is not always easy to have, especially for certain people. I do believe there is a level of intentionality, however, that can give anyone the ability to laugh at things. There is always a choice: laugh, or get angry. When a roommate spills milk on your bed, you can either cry about it or laugh at it. When your roommate breaks the futon, you could either get mad or laugh about it. When your roommate accidentally uses your toothpaste, you can either get really ticked and tell all your friends about the problem, or laugh about it and go buy a new one. Obviously, there are certain things a roommate may do that you should not and cannot laugh at. But if they make a mistake and it is an accident, try and not be uptight about it, but be willing to laugh about it. More often than not, if you can laugh at your roommate’s mistakes, he or she will be able to laugh at your mistakes too.
The third tip is crucial. If you have a problem with your roommate, let them know about it. I cannot stress this enough, so many people are afraid of conflict with a roommate that rather than addressing conflict when it begins, they let it linger until it slowly develops into a much bigger issue that ends in an all out explosion of roommate angst and bitterness. There is a misconception in the world that telling someone they are doing something annoying or hurtful will make the other person hate you. Conflict can be handled without destruction and gnashing of teeth. I have found that many times when I present a complaint to one of my roommates, they did not even realize that they were doing something wrong and they immediately fixed the problem.
If your roommate is printing off pages when you want to sleep, let him or her know that it is keeping you awake and you need to sleep. If your roommate is constantly eating your food or wearing your clothes without asking, let them know that is annoys you and they need to ask before taking something. You should be ready, however, because if your roommate is being bothered by something you do there is a good chance they will let you know about it after you let them know what is bothering you. If they do this, be willing to agree and make a deal. “Do unto others as you would have them do to you” is easily the most cliché thing in the book, but it is also one of the most true and applicable things you can know. Setting the example by being willing to accommodate your roommates’ needs will give them more incentive to adjust to your needs.
Be able to understand and appreciate differences you have with your roommate. Odds are, you will not find all the same things funny, you will not like the exact same movies, and you will not use the same cologne or perfume. Just because your roommate is different than you, do not assume that they think you are not cool. Likewise, do not think that your roommate is less cool than you because they are different than you. Different cultural roots can also be a sensitive area too, so be careful that you do not criticize the things they do differently because of where they grew up. At the same time, be careful not to interpret what they say about the way you grew up as criticism. People may just be surprised because they had never heard of that idea or way of life, but that does not mean they are being critical.
The last piece of advice is tough. It is not always enough to not be selfish, you must also be selfless. Doing things for your roommate and considering how they will be affected by your actions will make living with them much more enjoyable. For example, I lived in an apartment with a kitchen for several years. I cook all of my meals while some of my roommates eat most of their meals in the dining halls. Occasionally they get hungry and cook something at the apartment and then just leave the dishes in the sink. They eventually get cleaned, sometimes four or five days later, so in their minds they are not doing anything wrong because they are cleaning their dishes. The problem is, I have to cook in there everyday, and sometimes I need the dishes they used or I need the space in the sink that their dishes are taking up. This is very inconvenient for me. They are not being selfish, but they are not really living selflessly. Living selflessly does not seem very rewarding, but it actually is. It is one of those Biblical paradoxes that never makes sense until you experience it. Doing things for others is somehow the most rewarding thing you can do for yourself. If you treat your roommate selflessly, then most likely they will do the same for you and then everyone will be a happy camper.
There is a small problem with all of these tips. Sometimes you just get suckered into having a roommate who is just a real jerk. Be careful in concluding this however, make sure that you have done everything you can to work out the differences you have. Do not take the easy way out and just conclude you have a jerk roommate before you try and deal with the issues you are experiencing. Because sometimes the person you thought was a jerk will end up being the coolest person you have ever known.
If you do wind up with a total jerk, there is hope! The first thing you can do is start praying that God will work in their heart to make them a better roommate. The second thing you can do is to constantly forgive your roommate, time and time again. God does the same thing for you, so let yourself forgive jerk roommates. The third thing you can do is be the roommate you want them to be. If you are constantly being selfless and joyful, it is going to rub-off on them. And if for some reason it does not, God will see your selflessness and reward you somehow. It may not be now, and it may not even be in this life, but God will take notice.
One thing I have tried to do lately is turn the things my roommates do that annoy me into acts of worship. The best example is, again, the dishes. When I see the dishes cluttering up the kitchen I try not to get angry, and instead I just wash them. This is not always easy to do with a worshipful attitude, and sometimes I need some positive music to help keep a good attitude, but I get the dishes done. During the rest of the day, I can look at the kitchen and not get really ticked off because it looks like an explosion happened in there. Instead, I can just smile and know that things are fine.
Having a roommate can be exciting. You will probably be closer to them than anyone you have ever met. If your roommate is not a believer, you will have the best witnessing opportunity of your life. The tips in this chapter especially apply to that living situation, because your roommate will see that there is something different about the selfless and humble way you live and be drawn to Christ through that. Living with someone is what you make of it. If you want to have fun with them, then you will. If you want to have things your own way and be prideful about everything, you will have a miserable year with your roommate. In my opinion, humility never looked so good.
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Roots
Warm Up: Matthew 15:1-20
The first couple of times I came home from college everyone in my family was happy to see me. My mom did my laundry, she cooked me whatever I wanted, and my bed had been made! As the year went on, however, this warm welcome became less exciting. Don’t get me wrong, they were still very happy to see me and missed me when I was away, but gone were the choice meals and personal laundry service. As the months and years went by, I had the joy of being welcomed by a new tradition: yard work. It seemed like every time I came home there was something new to do. If you have never done yard work in the South, than you have never really done yard work. There is nothing like working on hot summer days when the humidity is pushing 100 percent. Your entire body is covered in dirt that sticks to the sweat emitting from every gland in you. At the end of the day, I would sometimes think I had a nice tan, but was disappointed when I hopped in the shower and discovered my “tan” was just cakey dirt and washed away. But the work still had to be done; otherwise the yard would become a weed jungle.
I like to get things done the quickest and easiest way. Most young people in America are like that I suppose; we’ve all grown up on microwaves and high speed Internet. When I am pulling the weeds around our house, however, this modern approach does not work. The easiest and quickest method for removing weeds is using little clippers and cutting them at their base. When I did this, the weeds would disappear for a week or two and then return. But, the clipping method did at least make them go away for a little while.
I should clarify something by saying that we are not talking two inch tall weeds around my house, some of these babies reached four or five feet! And you thought I was joking about the weed jungle. The easy method of weed removal is especially nice when dealing with thorny weeds because I could avoid being hurt by them. But, like I said, clipping them did not solve the problem for very long. I soon discovered I needed to pull the weed out by the root, otherwise they would continue to grow and threaten to become a mini-rainforest.
Getting the weeds out by the roots is always more difficult and time consuming then the quick fix of clipping, but the results are so much better. It is never fun, I have to get even more dirty and usually end up being covered in scratches from thorns. But I know that I need to take the extra time, energy, and sometimes pain in order to rid the yard of weeds. Otherwise, the weeds will never go away and they will constantly give me trouble.
My sins are a lot like weeds. I do not want them there, they are ugly, they usually have thorns, and if I do not do anything about them they can spread and grow into a massive jungle that chokes my life away. Just like weeds, sin is not taken care of through a quick fix, but rather, sin needs to be addressed and taken care of at the root level. This is almost never easy, and sometimes it can even hurt, but it must be done in order for my relationship with God to grow and thrive.
Sometimes determining the root of a sin can be very difficult. It may take weeks, months, or even years. To really find the problem we have to get dirty and start digging into our own hearts, and sometimes I think we are afraid of what we will find. The anger someone unleashes on a roommate, for instance, could be rooted in many different things. It could be a wound from youth, it could be selfishness, it could be pride, it could be a desire to fight people, or it could be a combination of many things. The bottom line is this: the only way to find the root is to start digging.
Other times figuring out the root is easy, like when I tell a friend he is an idiot in order to hurt his feelings, the root of that sin is probably my ridiculous pride. In order to resolve that issue I could go for the quick fix and promise myself I will never call anyone an idiot again. But if I do that, there is no heart change. I will still be thinking my friend is an idiot and that I am better than him. I will quickly forget about my quick fix promise and call him he an idiot again after a few weeks. Just because it is easy to identify the root of the sin does not mean it will be easy to remove it. If you have ever had chores, then I am sure you have heard your parents say something to the effect of, “those weeds are not going to pull themselves!” Over the years, I have learned that I, just like the yard, am incapable of really pulling my own weeds out. I need help, and God is the only person who is able to take care of the problem.
There is an amazing scene in C.S. Lewis’s The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. In the scene, a boy named Eustace has been turned into a dragon. For obvious reasons, Eustace wants to turn back into a human kid. One night he was approached by Aslan, the lion who is the Jesus of the Narnian world, and told that if he wants to become a boy again he must tear off his scales. Eustace attempts to do this and it hurts, but every time he pulls off some scales he sees there are more scales to be dug out. Finally, after peeling away three layers of skin and scales, Aslan tells Eustace something like, “I will have to do the work for you.” Eustace allows the lion to use his huge paws to remove the skin and scales, and it hurts him even more. Aslan is able to reach deep down into the skin and cleanse Eustace, and so He restores the boy to his former self.
Just like my yard needs me to pull the weeds and Eustace needed Aslan, I need God to remove the sin in my life from deep down at the root and heart of my sin. In order for this to happen, I must be humbled and it can hurt like crazy. Once the sin is off my back, however, I am able to stand up and breathe freely and not feel choked in my relationship with Him anymore. When I am willing to get dirty and figure out what the roots of my sin are, I persistently ask God to pull them for me and to make me more like Him by whatever means necessary. The temporary pain of Him changing my character and the extra time required to fix a sin at the root is so worth the wait. When sin is pulled up at the root, we can know that it will not be returning next week. There may be random reoccurrences, but if the root is gone the sin will be more easily dealt with and show up much less frequently.
It is comforting to know that even though I must endure pain to have my sins removed, Jesus has felt an even greater pain by removing them. Like I said, weeds often have thorns. And who knows? Perhaps it was no coincidence that Jesus had to wear a crown of thorns when he was crucified. It is a great testament to his love for us and his desire for people to connect with him and have no sins or weeds between us. Having that freedom to connect with him and not be stifled is such an amazing gift, and even though it often hurts to get there, it is so worth it. Jesus cares about the state of your heart. And to deal with your heart, you must dig deep.
The first couple of times I came home from college everyone in my family was happy to see me. My mom did my laundry, she cooked me whatever I wanted, and my bed had been made! As the year went on, however, this warm welcome became less exciting. Don’t get me wrong, they were still very happy to see me and missed me when I was away, but gone were the choice meals and personal laundry service. As the months and years went by, I had the joy of being welcomed by a new tradition: yard work. It seemed like every time I came home there was something new to do. If you have never done yard work in the South, than you have never really done yard work. There is nothing like working on hot summer days when the humidity is pushing 100 percent. Your entire body is covered in dirt that sticks to the sweat emitting from every gland in you. At the end of the day, I would sometimes think I had a nice tan, but was disappointed when I hopped in the shower and discovered my “tan” was just cakey dirt and washed away. But the work still had to be done; otherwise the yard would become a weed jungle.
I like to get things done the quickest and easiest way. Most young people in America are like that I suppose; we’ve all grown up on microwaves and high speed Internet. When I am pulling the weeds around our house, however, this modern approach does not work. The easiest and quickest method for removing weeds is using little clippers and cutting them at their base. When I did this, the weeds would disappear for a week or two and then return. But, the clipping method did at least make them go away for a little while.
I should clarify something by saying that we are not talking two inch tall weeds around my house, some of these babies reached four or five feet! And you thought I was joking about the weed jungle. The easy method of weed removal is especially nice when dealing with thorny weeds because I could avoid being hurt by them. But, like I said, clipping them did not solve the problem for very long. I soon discovered I needed to pull the weed out by the root, otherwise they would continue to grow and threaten to become a mini-rainforest.
Getting the weeds out by the roots is always more difficult and time consuming then the quick fix of clipping, but the results are so much better. It is never fun, I have to get even more dirty and usually end up being covered in scratches from thorns. But I know that I need to take the extra time, energy, and sometimes pain in order to rid the yard of weeds. Otherwise, the weeds will never go away and they will constantly give me trouble.
My sins are a lot like weeds. I do not want them there, they are ugly, they usually have thorns, and if I do not do anything about them they can spread and grow into a massive jungle that chokes my life away. Just like weeds, sin is not taken care of through a quick fix, but rather, sin needs to be addressed and taken care of at the root level. This is almost never easy, and sometimes it can even hurt, but it must be done in order for my relationship with God to grow and thrive.
Sometimes determining the root of a sin can be very difficult. It may take weeks, months, or even years. To really find the problem we have to get dirty and start digging into our own hearts, and sometimes I think we are afraid of what we will find. The anger someone unleashes on a roommate, for instance, could be rooted in many different things. It could be a wound from youth, it could be selfishness, it could be pride, it could be a desire to fight people, or it could be a combination of many things. The bottom line is this: the only way to find the root is to start digging.
Other times figuring out the root is easy, like when I tell a friend he is an idiot in order to hurt his feelings, the root of that sin is probably my ridiculous pride. In order to resolve that issue I could go for the quick fix and promise myself I will never call anyone an idiot again. But if I do that, there is no heart change. I will still be thinking my friend is an idiot and that I am better than him. I will quickly forget about my quick fix promise and call him he an idiot again after a few weeks. Just because it is easy to identify the root of the sin does not mean it will be easy to remove it. If you have ever had chores, then I am sure you have heard your parents say something to the effect of, “those weeds are not going to pull themselves!” Over the years, I have learned that I, just like the yard, am incapable of really pulling my own weeds out. I need help, and God is the only person who is able to take care of the problem.
There is an amazing scene in C.S. Lewis’s The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. In the scene, a boy named Eustace has been turned into a dragon. For obvious reasons, Eustace wants to turn back into a human kid. One night he was approached by Aslan, the lion who is the Jesus of the Narnian world, and told that if he wants to become a boy again he must tear off his scales. Eustace attempts to do this and it hurts, but every time he pulls off some scales he sees there are more scales to be dug out. Finally, after peeling away three layers of skin and scales, Aslan tells Eustace something like, “I will have to do the work for you.” Eustace allows the lion to use his huge paws to remove the skin and scales, and it hurts him even more. Aslan is able to reach deep down into the skin and cleanse Eustace, and so He restores the boy to his former self.
Just like my yard needs me to pull the weeds and Eustace needed Aslan, I need God to remove the sin in my life from deep down at the root and heart of my sin. In order for this to happen, I must be humbled and it can hurt like crazy. Once the sin is off my back, however, I am able to stand up and breathe freely and not feel choked in my relationship with Him anymore. When I am willing to get dirty and figure out what the roots of my sin are, I persistently ask God to pull them for me and to make me more like Him by whatever means necessary. The temporary pain of Him changing my character and the extra time required to fix a sin at the root is so worth the wait. When sin is pulled up at the root, we can know that it will not be returning next week. There may be random reoccurrences, but if the root is gone the sin will be more easily dealt with and show up much less frequently.
It is comforting to know that even though I must endure pain to have my sins removed, Jesus has felt an even greater pain by removing them. Like I said, weeds often have thorns. And who knows? Perhaps it was no coincidence that Jesus had to wear a crown of thorns when he was crucified. It is a great testament to his love for us and his desire for people to connect with him and have no sins or weeds between us. Having that freedom to connect with him and not be stifled is such an amazing gift, and even though it often hurts to get there, it is so worth it. Jesus cares about the state of your heart. And to deal with your heart, you must dig deep.
Loneliness
Warm Up: 2 Corinthians 13:11-14, 1 John 1:6-7
The summer after my freshman year I had an exciting opportunity to work for FEMA, the Federal Emergency Management Agency. Before beginning the job, I envisioned myself flying on a helicopter to emergency sites and saving the day, just like James Bond or the Mission Impossible guy. Unfortunately, the job did not turn out exactly as I predicted. I sat in a warehouse and did tech support for a newly developed program. I did get a laugh from the fact that a philosophy and speech communication major was doing tech-support, but hey, that was what paid the bills. Despite the lack of helicopter rides or exciting theme music, I still had a great experience because I could travel around to different cities in the Southeast, staying in hotels and eating out all the time. Sometimes this routine became a little dull, but I had a great deal of time to sit and hang out with God too, which is always a positive thing.
One thing I learned much about on these trips was loneliness. During some weeks, I was the only worker under the age of thirty. Needless to say, there were not many fun adventures to be had with my co-workers. Occasionally, a couple of guys in there twenties showed up and I could eat lunch and sometimes dinner with them, but most of the time I ate by myself in a sit-down restaurant. My loneliness was bearable, however. If I was having trouble in Mississippi or Alabama I could always count on the fact that fellowship was just a phone call away, or that I would be home soon and see my friends again. It did, however, give me a small taste of what loneliness is like, and to be honest with you, it completely reeks.
The amount of loneliness I experienced that summer was nothing compared to what truly lonely people experience everyday. They simply have no one to turn to. There is no weekend to look forward to, there are no friends to return to, and there is no one to call when you are struggling. There is just a lonely person, by themselves and alone.
During my second week at FEMA a USA Today article came out that discussed American loneliness (the article was by Janet Kornblum on June 22). The story dealt with the number of close friends, or confidants, the average American has. In the last twenty years, that number has dropped from three friends down to two friends. The article also said that one in four people have absolutely no one they feel safe confiding in, and that eighty percent of Americans confide only in family members. Although many people are friendly, few seem to be looking for true friendships.
This article completely blew me away. Maybe I am just really, really blessed, because I know several people I can confide in. The idea of not being able to go to anyone when I have a problem or need advice or just want a good old-fashioned hug scared the junk out of me. Some people probably read this and think the same thing I do, but then again, many others know exactly what it is like to not have anyone they can confide in and are almost relieved to know they are not the only lonely people in America.
God did not intend for us to be alone. He created Eve for Adam, brought Jonathan to be friends with David, Jesus had a group of twelve disciples, and the Trinity is a picture of perfect community. The church body is another example of a place that needs to be a fellowship of people who love each other and encourage each other. If the church ceases to be a community, it becomes a boring place you feel guilty for not wanting to attend.
Arriving at college, especially if you attend a major University, is very intimidating. There are literally thousands of people you will not know and all of them are out to find themselves. If you blink, you can become a simple face in the crowd or lose touch with who you really are.
The first couple weeks at college are extremely exciting. Every person is a fresh face and everyone is out to make friends. Random people sit with other random people in dining halls, different people pop into dorm rooms everyday, and there is a general buzz about the entire campus. I strongly encourage that you take advantage of this time to meet as many new people as you can. Approach people with boldness, because most likely they are also seeking to make new friends. But do not be satisfied with merely getting to know someone’s major and place of birth, be willing to dig deep. Seek out people who can become your close friends and confidants and invest in them. Quite frankly, you will not enjoy college if you have a thousand acquaintances and zero best friends. But if you have two or ten best friends who you can always count on, you will probably love college more than any other time of your life.
One last note about loneliness: building an authentic relationship with someone who is not a Christian is some of the best evangelism you can do. If someone is lonely and you reach out to them, you will change their world. When someone trusts you and knows you care for them, they are going to be much more willing to listen to you and follow your life example. The flip side of this can be a danger for you, however. The closer you get to a non-believer, the more likely you can be to fall into some of their sinful habits. Safeguard yourself by spending time with God every day and keeping in touch with good Christian friends. If you know you are going to be tempted too much by hanging out with a particular person, then do not stay around them for too long. Keep in touch with them and let them know you care about them, but do not let them have a negative influence on you.
The reason I say this is because ultimately, our loneliness or contentment in relationships is based in God. If we let our earthly friendships hurt the way we relate to God we will never be satisfied. The number one thing you can do to avoid loneliness, and the number one thing you can encourage others to do, is maintain a strong relationship with the author of love and fellowship. If you do this, people will see the joy in your life and want to be around you all the time. Reach out to people and build relationships, but reach out to God first, and you will be amazed at the level of community you can experience.
Click for original USA Today article.
The summer after my freshman year I had an exciting opportunity to work for FEMA, the Federal Emergency Management Agency. Before beginning the job, I envisioned myself flying on a helicopter to emergency sites and saving the day, just like James Bond or the Mission Impossible guy. Unfortunately, the job did not turn out exactly as I predicted. I sat in a warehouse and did tech support for a newly developed program. I did get a laugh from the fact that a philosophy and speech communication major was doing tech-support, but hey, that was what paid the bills. Despite the lack of helicopter rides or exciting theme music, I still had a great experience because I could travel around to different cities in the Southeast, staying in hotels and eating out all the time. Sometimes this routine became a little dull, but I had a great deal of time to sit and hang out with God too, which is always a positive thing.
One thing I learned much about on these trips was loneliness. During some weeks, I was the only worker under the age of thirty. Needless to say, there were not many fun adventures to be had with my co-workers. Occasionally, a couple of guys in there twenties showed up and I could eat lunch and sometimes dinner with them, but most of the time I ate by myself in a sit-down restaurant. My loneliness was bearable, however. If I was having trouble in Mississippi or Alabama I could always count on the fact that fellowship was just a phone call away, or that I would be home soon and see my friends again. It did, however, give me a small taste of what loneliness is like, and to be honest with you, it completely reeks.
The amount of loneliness I experienced that summer was nothing compared to what truly lonely people experience everyday. They simply have no one to turn to. There is no weekend to look forward to, there are no friends to return to, and there is no one to call when you are struggling. There is just a lonely person, by themselves and alone.
During my second week at FEMA a USA Today article came out that discussed American loneliness (the article was by Janet Kornblum on June 22). The story dealt with the number of close friends, or confidants, the average American has. In the last twenty years, that number has dropped from three friends down to two friends. The article also said that one in four people have absolutely no one they feel safe confiding in, and that eighty percent of Americans confide only in family members. Although many people are friendly, few seem to be looking for true friendships.
This article completely blew me away. Maybe I am just really, really blessed, because I know several people I can confide in. The idea of not being able to go to anyone when I have a problem or need advice or just want a good old-fashioned hug scared the junk out of me. Some people probably read this and think the same thing I do, but then again, many others know exactly what it is like to not have anyone they can confide in and are almost relieved to know they are not the only lonely people in America.
God did not intend for us to be alone. He created Eve for Adam, brought Jonathan to be friends with David, Jesus had a group of twelve disciples, and the Trinity is a picture of perfect community. The church body is another example of a place that needs to be a fellowship of people who love each other and encourage each other. If the church ceases to be a community, it becomes a boring place you feel guilty for not wanting to attend.
Arriving at college, especially if you attend a major University, is very intimidating. There are literally thousands of people you will not know and all of them are out to find themselves. If you blink, you can become a simple face in the crowd or lose touch with who you really are.
The first couple weeks at college are extremely exciting. Every person is a fresh face and everyone is out to make friends. Random people sit with other random people in dining halls, different people pop into dorm rooms everyday, and there is a general buzz about the entire campus. I strongly encourage that you take advantage of this time to meet as many new people as you can. Approach people with boldness, because most likely they are also seeking to make new friends. But do not be satisfied with merely getting to know someone’s major and place of birth, be willing to dig deep. Seek out people who can become your close friends and confidants and invest in them. Quite frankly, you will not enjoy college if you have a thousand acquaintances and zero best friends. But if you have two or ten best friends who you can always count on, you will probably love college more than any other time of your life.
One last note about loneliness: building an authentic relationship with someone who is not a Christian is some of the best evangelism you can do. If someone is lonely and you reach out to them, you will change their world. When someone trusts you and knows you care for them, they are going to be much more willing to listen to you and follow your life example. The flip side of this can be a danger for you, however. The closer you get to a non-believer, the more likely you can be to fall into some of their sinful habits. Safeguard yourself by spending time with God every day and keeping in touch with good Christian friends. If you know you are going to be tempted too much by hanging out with a particular person, then do not stay around them for too long. Keep in touch with them and let them know you care about them, but do not let them have a negative influence on you.
The reason I say this is because ultimately, our loneliness or contentment in relationships is based in God. If we let our earthly friendships hurt the way we relate to God we will never be satisfied. The number one thing you can do to avoid loneliness, and the number one thing you can encourage others to do, is maintain a strong relationship with the author of love and fellowship. If you do this, people will see the joy in your life and want to be around you all the time. Reach out to people and build relationships, but reach out to God first, and you will be amazed at the level of community you can experience.
Click for original USA Today article.
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